Excerpt: Chapter 5: The Mommy Track

For the right woman, the woman who desires and chooses to be
a mother, motherhood can be an amazing experience. It also can be
exhausting and trying. Being a mom is difficult; it is hard work to
make all the decisions needed to raise a child and it seems to be getting
harder. Douglas and Michaels explained that in a recent poll eightyone
percent of women said it was harder to be a mom now than twenty
years ago. One reason the authors of The Mommy Myth give for this
increased difficulty was that “mothers needed to be the equivalent of
physicians’ assistants, pharmacists, child product safety testers, nutritionists,
crafts people, and district attorneys” because they are now
immersed in “the new risk-saturated world of motherhood…in which
childhood danger became a national fixation.” Mothers are expected
to protect their children from everything from choking to child molesters
all while feeding them organic, home-prepared meals and providing
constantly changing age appropriate toys and games. The pressure
to be a mom comes early in a young woman’s life and she continues
to be inundated throughout her lifetime whether she decides to be a
mom or not.

Nothing in life is perfect including motherhood but I believe
women who make that choice freely are happy with their decision.
They have opened themselves up to new joys and experiences that
cannot be experienced by anyone other than a mother. However,
they trade that joy for the responsibilities and pressures to be perfect.
Women fight the pressure to be perfect on a daily basis and if they
listen to the media they will never succeed. The good news is that the
mothers I met were self-aware enough to avoid the pitfalls of obsession
with media and magazines. They decided instead to be the best
parents they could regardless of what outside sources demand.