Choices

Something I spent a lot of time researching early on is making choices. When stressed or anxious about facing 30, we are often consumed with questions about the choices we've made. In second guessing ourselves, we are questioning several things:

Did I make the right choice?

Why did I choose one thing over another?

Am I who I want to be?
If not, why not?

It is easy to question the big choices - about getting an education or going surfing, having children or waiting, getting married to the guy you thought you loved or even getting divorced when things were not working out. Big life choices are not made once, they tend to be made every day. When you decide to get married, you continue to make that choice from the day you said yes to the day you said I Do and beyond. The choice to have a spouse is one you can reverse. You can get a divorce. So in reality you chose to get married and you continue to choose to stay married.

This same cannot be said for having children. They are yours once you have them. However, you can choose what kind of parent you will be. If you choose to make your children a priority, you have to continue to choose that each day. Or you can choose to let someone else take responsibility or you can just do the bare minimum to raise your family.

Choices are often difficult and can create regret. The thing about regret though is that it is useless. Regret does nothing for your life. It makes you doubt yourself and dislike yourself and your life. Instead of regret, consider making a new choice. Change your mind and seek a different path or just choose to be happy with the path. Continue each day to make choices that you love.